Thursday, January 31, 2013

Friendships - Isn't it interesting?

Today's post was inspired by a trip to the gym last night.
After finishing my time on the treadmill I headed over to do some ab work when I saw this guy walking towards me.
We both looked at each other and smiled then kept going opposite directions.
Then immediately afterwards I thought.
'WAIT! That was Chris!'

Then I went about my workout and didn't bother to hunt him down to talk to him or say hi at all.
See, this guy Chris used to date a friend of mine, and me and my ex-boyfriend and a whole group of us, used to run around together all the time back in my 20's.

The incident had me thinking about a topic I actually think about quite a bit.
..That is..
Isn't it interesting how you have friends at a certain point in your life that you're really close with and do almost everything with, then a few years down the road you don't even talk to them at all?

It's sorta sad.
Granted, as I sit here and write this post I'll be the first to admit there are several friends that I've had in recent years that I have parted ways with it and it was intentional.
I chose to end those friendships because I was over the drama that came with them.

In this case, I'm talking about friendships where you just grew apart.
I guess it goes back to that old saying: friends for a reason, friends for a season and friends for life.

Even so, I find it amazing that there are people in this town, or in other towns for that matter, that I use to talk to on a daily basis and now I don't even recognize in the mall or at the gym.

Have any of you had this experience too?
How does it make you feel?
Random post, I know..


MCW said...

I have a friend like that! We were best friends, lived with her for a few years and as soon as she got a boyfriend she started to drift, then she got married (I was a bridesmaid) and then she drifted farther and then she had kids. I haven't talked to her in almost 3 years. She also did the same thing to all of our mutual friends (we were all in the same sorority together.) I was sad at first, but now I just know she is selfish and a bad friend.

Alayna said...

Sad to think that I had two friends that I stood as a bridesmaid at their weddings, and neither of them CAME to mine. I talk to one every few months, but the other I haven't seen in about five years. We were so important to each other, but now..... But I had still have a few friends I'm very close to still after all this time. When I hear you talk about "The Beav" I lmao, because I've been hearing about "The Beav" for over 15 years now.

Alayna said...

oh, and my point about the neat that all you girls are still close. And Rebekah knows I rule on all reality tv trivia:)

Maran (HeyHawleywood) said...

I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes you out grow friendships based on where you are in your life. Or there are some that are too emotionally draining to continue. But then there are some that seem to transcend time. Those are the real true friendships of a lifetime.

Easton wife said...

YES! It's unfortunate that I have more "Friends for a season" than life but at least I do have a few. Can so relate!

Carolina Charm said...

SO TRUE. I think about this all the times. Even when I look back at my bridesmaids...some of them I barely even keep up with (and it's only been a little over a year)!

Southern Living: Preppy Style said...

I think we all have friends like that. It is sad, I have a high school friend (well since grade school really) and we drifted apart. We're both sad about it but due to location it's hard to pick back up. It's sad. I really should make more of an effort.

Sara said...

I remember doing a post almost identical to this after having Hudson. It's hard to keep up friendships when your lives are so incredibly different. I have a few friends that are still single and partying. And that's just not where I am in my life anymore. We're still friends...just not the kind that talk on the phone everyday or meet up for happy hour twice a week. Now, We tend to gravitate towards other people who have kids and can do kid friendly things. And a night out for us is usually enjoying a nice dinner and going home. See?? Lifestyle change :)

alexandra occasions said...

it is happens so often. we think our "grown up life" is going to include all of the people that helped to shape us.

its a sweet feeling though if you can reconnect and pick right back up where you left off, that's when you know its real.

donatelli98 said...

I completely agree with Sara, but what else is new? Where you are in life dictates a lot of your friendships!